There are various relationships such as friendship in school, human relations in the workplace, love relationship with lover.
I am afraid of others' evaluation.
I want to be regarded as a good person.
I want to be liked by everyone.
Many people feel this way.
That identity is a desire for approval.
But too strong a desire to approve hurt your heart.
Do you not care about the evaluation from others?
It may cause trouble.
There are many people who are interested in how they are being seen by others.
Some people try to be liked by everyone.
Some people are easy to be distracted by others' evaluations, others are more likely to lose confidence.
Approval desire is the action of the heart that anyone has in common.
I am feeling that I want to be accepted by someone in my social life.
This emotion is collectively referred to as desire for approval.
Especially young people of today have a strong desire for approval.
Fulfilling the desire for approval is neither bad nor embarrassing.
If you think you want to be overkilled, you hurt yourself.
Depression may develop, too much pain.
People who are too concerned about the evaluation of others are prone to depression.
Evaluation of others becomes all of themselves.
If you only care about the evaluation of others, you will be in a state where yourself does not exist and will change your will with other people's appraisals.
I think that such a low evaluation from others is a valid evaluation of one's own and fall into a bad thinking.
Furthermore, if there is a large difference between the actual self and the evaluation for oneself, a problem arises.
If you are well evaluated by someone else but you are not doing a good evaluation for yourself, you will eventually become depressed.
A good evaluation from others is often different from the original one, and sometimes it torments himself to protect its evaluation.
And, as a result, as a result, my heart is sick.
What you think of others will be the top priority.
I want to be considered a good person from others!
I do not want to be hated by others!
I want to be thoughtful of others from others!
In this way, we will always take action that is dominated by the viewpoint of others.
Many people want ratings from others.
However, too much cherishment from others will deny the original self.
My sense of values will be changed by evaluation from others.
If you care only about others' evaluation, you lose sight of yourself.
It is not a thing that I really want to do but it makes me painful because I only do actions that make others appreciate.
Even if you do impossible, you will match the schedule of the other party or give priority to your opponent's request so that others can do a good evaluation.
According to the opponent, the tendency to prioritize the opponent over himself becomes stronger.
The more you try to answer others' expectations, the harder your heart becomes.
Because there is no ideal of myself, it is dominated by opinions of others.
Then, how can we solve these problems?
People who care about evaluation from others often tend to be liked by everyone.
It is unfortunately fantasy to be recognized by all people.
Effortlessly striving to be liked by everyone, it will not last long.
To some extent, it is necessary to think that there is no problem even if hated.
Always think things on your own standards.
If you can recognize yourself yourself, it will be confident and you will not mind the evaluation from others.
The important thing is to evaluate yourself first.
The important thing is just my own evaluation.
If you live to get the evaluation of others, you will notice that just before you died, everything was just a delusion.
Do not mind others' evaluation.
Have a strong goal and concentrate on just raising your abilities.
Let's think about only how to grow your ability without being conscious of others' evaluation.
Even if not evaluated by others, those who can only rejoice in raising their abilities can become professional.
That's why you should not mind evaluating others.
Evaluation from others should be ignored.
I am afraid of others' evaluation.
I want to be regarded as a good person.
I want to be liked by everyone.
Many people feel this way.
That identity is a desire for approval.
But too strong a desire to approve hurt your heart.
There are many people who care about evaluation from others
It may cause trouble.
There are many people who are interested in how they are being seen by others.
Some people try to be liked by everyone.
Some people are easy to be distracted by others' evaluations, others are more likely to lose confidence.
The reason why evaluation from others is anxious is desire for approval
I am feeling that I want to be accepted by someone in my social life.
This emotion is collectively referred to as desire for approval.
Especially young people of today have a strong desire for approval.
Fulfilling the desire for approval is neither bad nor embarrassing.
However, too strong a desire to approve hurt my heart
Desire for approval exists for everyone, but if this desire is too strong it will be painful.If you think you want to be overkilled, you hurt yourself.
Depression may develop, too much pain.
People who are too concerned about the evaluation of others are prone to depression.
Three problems of being concerned about evaluation by others
1: I make my own self-image with evaluation from others
If you only care about the evaluation of others, you will be in a state where yourself does not exist and will change your will with other people's appraisals.
When evaluation from others is low
If you are finding job hunting and failing to interview, you will feel like being denied all of yourself.I think that such a low evaluation from others is a valid evaluation of one's own and fall into a bad thinking.
When evaluation from others is high
If other people's evaluation is good, you become overconfident, you care only about the evaluation of others, your will will go away,Furthermore, if there is a large difference between the actual self and the evaluation for oneself, a problem arises.
If you are well evaluated by someone else but you are not doing a good evaluation for yourself, you will eventually become depressed.
A good evaluation from others is often different from the original one, and sometimes it torments himself to protect its evaluation.
And, as a result, as a result, my heart is sick.
2: It depends on the evaluation from others and the behavior is restricted
I want to be considered a good person from others!
I do not want to be hated by others!
I want to be thoughtful of others from others!
In this way, we will always take action that is dominated by the viewpoint of others.
Many people want ratings from others.
However, too much cherishment from others will deny the original self.
My sense of values will be changed by evaluation from others.
3: As a result it is dominated by the evaluation from others
It is not a thing that I really want to do but it makes me painful because I only do actions that make others appreciate.
Even if you do impossible, you will match the schedule of the other party or give priority to your opponent's request so that others can do a good evaluation.
According to the opponent, the tendency to prioritize the opponent over himself becomes stronger.
The more you try to answer others' expectations, the harder your heart becomes.
Because there is no ideal of myself, it is dominated by opinions of others.
Then, how can we solve these problems?
Three ways to avoid minds of others' evaluations
1: Do not think that everyone will like you
It is unfortunately fantasy to be recognized by all people.
Effortlessly striving to be liked by everyone, it will not last long.
To some extent, it is necessary to think that there is no problem even if hated.
2: Habits to evaluate yourself yourself
If you can recognize yourself yourself, it will be confident and you will not mind the evaluation from others.
The important thing is to evaluate yourself first.
The important thing is just my own evaluation.
If you live to get the evaluation of others, you will notice that just before you died, everything was just a delusion.
3: Let's concentrate on raising your own abilities
Have a strong goal and concentrate on just raising your abilities.
Let's think about only how to grow your ability without being conscious of others' evaluation.
Even if not evaluated by others, those who can only rejoice in raising their abilities can become professional.
That's why you should not mind evaluating others.
Evaluation from others should be ignored.
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