Is there a perfectionist among the people around you?
A perfectionist may be a nuisance for the surrounding people.
I summarized the psychology of the perfectionists.
I am in trouble if my boss and my company's family, friends and company are perfectionists.
A perfectionist is a person of a person who does not feel uncomfortable without doing everything perfectly.
A perfectionist can not do halfway for anything.
There are several patterns for perfectionists, but what is common to many of them is the obsessive idea that if you do not do things according to your expectations, you feel that everything has failed.
People of perfectionism are ideal, as a matter of course, from purity and stoicism.
The perfectionists will continue to aim for outcomes above their own abilities.
A perfectionist sets a high hurdle for himself, trying to aim for a condition without any faults.
For example, romantic, human relations, work, money, hobbies.
The perfectionist is highly ideal for many things and strives to aim for a high ideal.
Perfectionists want to stand out anyhow, they want to be said to be amazing, and there is a willingness to want to be praised from people around.
Perfectionists are pleased to be praised, so I will try harder.
Perfectionist is misunderstood that self-evaluation is high.
But that is a big mistake.
Perfectionist thinks it is only failing.
Perfectionists will think about only bad places.
People with perfectionism are often very severe to themselves, so evaluation from surrounding people is very high, but only you are often thinking that you are bad.
The perfectionist thinks that he is not capable of his own right now.
The perfectionists think that they themselves are faulty, incomplete and defective.
To accept only ourselves with conditions that fulfilled the ideal means low self-worth.
It means that I do not approve myself which does not reach the ideal.
People who are perfectionist often have excessive concern about how they are watching from others.
In the background, there is a distorted belief that it is meaningless unless all things are perfect, not loved unless it is perfect.
Because perfectionist is not confident, I always feel uneasy and feel that I do not have any value if I do not get any results.
So, perfectionists are always irritated and impatient.
The perfectionist confirms his / her own value by getting high evaluation from others.
Perfectionists have confidence that is not grounded in their abilities and try to calculate everything with their own theory, so the surrounding people are often confused.
The perfectionist thinks all his thoughts are correct.
People of perfectionist have a stubborn character, in good or bad meaning.
Because there are strong values and obstacles to perfectionists, it is both a pros and cons.
A perfectionist is a person who has a personality that he is unwilling to be in his own way and if he expresses his features in a word it is selfish.
If a perfectionist does not make his own way, he or she feels that he can not forgive.
The perfectionists try to keep the rules.
The perfectionist is too serious, and it tends to feel sense of responsibility very strongly.
The perfectionist tries to do everything possible for anything.
If it is an ordinary person, it has a moderate sense of responsibility, which often results in good results.
On the contrary, the perfectionist sees expectations and heavy pressure from surrounding people more than necessary.
As a result, perfectionists will not be allowed to make trivial failures and detours.
A perfectionist has no choice of compromise.
A perfectionist has only a choice of good or bad.
Perfectionists have success or failure, or 0 or 100 bipartite thoughts.
The perfectionist thinks that even a perfection degree of 99% is a failure, so it falls into a condition that you can not always be satisfied.
Therefore, there is a high possibility of giving up things on the way.
For example, even if a perfectionist perfectly accomplishes his work halfway, it suddenly loses motivation just because of one failure.
Perfectionism is like a phobia of failure.
Perfectionists do perfect job because they do not want to fail.
The perfectionist thinks he is scared of failing and getting angry.
What should I do if I fail?
I have to do it well!
In this way, the perfectionist is caught by the idea that it must be perfection which can be said to be an obsession, extremely fears the failure, I care very much about the evaluation from others.
When a perfectionist fails things or is reprimanded by a person, he loses confidence and depressed.
When a perfectionist gets angry, he thinks his entire personality as denied.
A perfectionist is scared of failures, so it will make sure that there are no mistakes anywhere.
I think the perfectionist is perfect and commonplace.
When a perfectionists work perfectly, I am amazing, I am self-ingrained by myself.
A perfectionist can only recognize himself by working perfectly, so on the other hand it will deny himself unless it is perfect.
In this way, the perfectionists love themselves, so they can not compromise forever.
A perfectionist does not do it if it can not realize the ideal.
For perfectionism, there are aspects that do not do things that can not be perfect from the beginning.
This is characteristic of perfectionist with low self-evaluation.
The more it becomes perfectionism, the more I think that it is better not to do anything if it can not be perfect.
For example, even if you notice that the room is dirty, if you can not clean the room perfectly now, you think that it is better not to clean it.
So, the perfectionist's room is unexpectedly dirty.
The perfectionist gets better and more isolated.
The reason why you can not rely on others is because you think that you are asking for perfection too much and relying on people is a bad thing.
A perfectionist can not ask for help and is extremely afraid of annoying people.
A perfectionist can not forgive myself who is not perfect.
A perfectionist thinks seeking help is to show one's weakness.
The perfectionist seeks other high achievements that he has decided.
Although it is perfectionist to be severe to himself, there is also a feature that it seems to be strict as well to others.
The perfectionist seeks the same degree of perfection for the partner as well.
A perfectionist has little feeling of accepting mistakes and disadvantages of others, so I can not forgive mistakes once, and I will definitely be unforgettable.
Perfectionists seek perfect partners, perfect bosses, perfect subordinates, but no such person.
So, the perfectionist can not get married, it collapses with work alone.
The cause of falling into a perfectionist is often caused by how parents in early childhood bred.
It is caused by disciplinary discipline.
You will not be praised unless you help.
It is scrupled severely that there is something you can not do.
Failure to be discouraged.
It is likely to be perfectionistic when you do this kind of contact from your parents in your childhood.
If parents are perfectionists, that child often is a perfectionist.
Person of perfectionism may have cause in childhood memory.
Trauma experiences of a strong sense of time also cause distortion of cognition.
People around me laughed at something when I failed.
When I made a mistake someone around me was stupid.
People around me were angry when I failed.
From such a past trauma it will come to think that it should not fail.
It is a perfectionist who has thought that incomplete things are bad by such an unpleasant experience.
A perfectionist may be a nuisance for the surrounding people.
I summarized the psychology of the perfectionists.
perfectionist
A perfectionist is a person of a person who does not feel uncomfortable without doing everything perfectly.
A perfectionist can not do halfway for anything.
There are several patterns for perfectionists, but what is common to many of them is the obsessive idea that if you do not do things according to your expectations, you feel that everything has failed.
Psychology of perfectionist
The perfectionist is ideal high
The perfectionists will continue to aim for outcomes above their own abilities.
A perfectionist sets a high hurdle for himself, trying to aim for a condition without any faults.
For example, romantic, human relations, work, money, hobbies.
The perfectionist is highly ideal for many things and strives to aim for a high ideal.
Perfectionists want to stand out anyhow, they want to be said to be amazing, and there is a willingness to want to be praised from people around.
Perfectionists are pleased to be praised, so I will try harder.
Perfectionists have low self-esteem
But that is a big mistake.
Perfectionist thinks it is only failing.
Perfectionists will think about only bad places.
People with perfectionism are often very severe to themselves, so evaluation from surrounding people is very high, but only you are often thinking that you are bad.
The perfectionist thinks that he is not capable of his own right now.
The perfectionists think that they themselves are faulty, incomplete and defective.
To accept only ourselves with conditions that fulfilled the ideal means low self-worth.
It means that I do not approve myself which does not reach the ideal.
A perfectionist always worries about people's evaluation
In the background, there is a distorted belief that it is meaningless unless all things are perfect, not loved unless it is perfect.
Because perfectionist is not confident, I always feel uneasy and feel that I do not have any value if I do not get any results.
So, perfectionists are always irritated and impatient.
The perfectionist confirms his / her own value by getting high evaluation from others.
The perfectionist wants it as he wants
The perfectionist thinks all his thoughts are correct.
People of perfectionist have a stubborn character, in good or bad meaning.
Because there are strong values and obstacles to perfectionists, it is both a pros and cons.
A perfectionist is a person who has a personality that he is unwilling to be in his own way and if he expresses his features in a word it is selfish.
If a perfectionist does not make his own way, he or she feels that he can not forgive.
Perfectionist has excessive sense of responsibility
The perfectionist is too serious, and it tends to feel sense of responsibility very strongly.
The perfectionist tries to do everything possible for anything.
If it is an ordinary person, it has a moderate sense of responsibility, which often results in good results.
On the contrary, the perfectionist sees expectations and heavy pressure from surrounding people more than necessary.
As a result, perfectionists will not be allowed to make trivial failures and detours.
Perfectionists have extreme thinking
A perfectionist has only a choice of good or bad.
Perfectionists have success or failure, or 0 or 100 bipartite thoughts.
The perfectionist thinks that even a perfection degree of 99% is a failure, so it falls into a condition that you can not always be satisfied.
Therefore, there is a high possibility of giving up things on the way.
For example, even if a perfectionist perfectly accomplishes his work halfway, it suddenly loses motivation just because of one failure.
Perfectionists are afraid of failure
Perfectionists do perfect job because they do not want to fail.
The perfectionist thinks he is scared of failing and getting angry.
What should I do if I fail?
I have to do it well!
In this way, the perfectionist is caught by the idea that it must be perfection which can be said to be an obsession, extremely fears the failure, I care very much about the evaluation from others.
When a perfectionist fails things or is reprimanded by a person, he loses confidence and depressed.
When a perfectionist gets angry, he thinks his entire personality as denied.
A perfectionist is scared of failures, so it will make sure that there are no mistakes anywhere.
Perfectionists are only allowed to recognize themselves to be perfection
When a perfectionists work perfectly, I am amazing, I am self-ingrained by myself.
A perfectionist can only recognize himself by working perfectly, so on the other hand it will deny himself unless it is perfect.
In this way, the perfectionists love themselves, so they can not compromise forever.
Perfectionists do not do it if they can not be perfect
For perfectionism, there are aspects that do not do things that can not be perfect from the beginning.
This is characteristic of perfectionist with low self-evaluation.
The more it becomes perfectionism, the more I think that it is better not to do anything if it can not be perfect.
For example, even if you notice that the room is dirty, if you can not clean the room perfectly now, you think that it is better not to clean it.
So, the perfectionist's room is unexpectedly dirty.
A perfectionist can not depend on people
The reason why you can not rely on others is because you think that you are asking for perfection too much and relying on people is a bad thing.
A perfectionist can not ask for help and is extremely afraid of annoying people.
A perfectionist can not forgive myself who is not perfect.
A perfectionist thinks seeking help is to show one's weakness.
Perfectionists seek perfection for people
Although it is perfectionist to be severe to himself, there is also a feature that it seems to be strict as well to others.
The perfectionist seeks the same degree of perfection for the partner as well.
A perfectionist has little feeling of accepting mistakes and disadvantages of others, so I can not forgive mistakes once, and I will definitely be unforgettable.
Perfectionists seek perfect partners, perfect bosses, perfect subordinates, but no such person.
So, the perfectionist can not get married, it collapses with work alone.
What is the cause of becoming a perfectionist?
Parent's discipline
It is caused by disciplinary discipline.
You will not be praised unless you help.
It is scrupled severely that there is something you can not do.
Failure to be discouraged.
It is likely to be perfectionistic when you do this kind of contact from your parents in your childhood.
If parents are perfectionists, that child often is a perfectionist.
trauma
Trauma experiences of a strong sense of time also cause distortion of cognition.
People around me laughed at something when I failed.
When I made a mistake someone around me was stupid.
People around me were angry when I failed.
From such a past trauma it will come to think that it should not fail.
It is a perfectionist who has thought that incomplete things are bad by such an unpleasant experience.
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